Dealing with a Child’s Challenging Behaviour

Monday 11 June 2018

I shared these musings on my instagram a few days ago and it seemed to really resonate, so I am sharing here also. I hope that something in these words will speak to you and help you on your motherhood journey.

Our young children’s behaviour is often our reflection to our inner world. They sense everything we don’t speak about. Clingy/ separation anxiety, trouble digesting food, nightmares are a few ways this may manifest. The more we can tap into our inner world and maintain a daily dialogue with it, the greater flow we will see in our parenting and wellbeing in our children…..

Let me talk about this a little more.

If a child is continuing to push a boundary repeatedly when you have continued to say no, firstly notice what are you doing/ where are your thoughts. In many cases the child is seeking your attention and presence. Simply stop what you are doing and get present with them. A big cuddle, a rumble on the couch, a story book, a tickle and a little verbal story to maybe illustrate their behaviour isn’t safe (if this was the case).

At the time or maybe later, notice the story in your head…. what are you thinking as the child does this behaviour. Are you/ your ego feeling like your child should not ignore you or it is rude for them to speak to you the way they are. Simply notice the thoughts and respond by acknowledge that “they need your help in that moment.” You are their teacher (and in spiritual terms they are yours!). What are they needing?

Often I’ve caught myself with the story….. “my kids shouldn’t be doing this… seriously I’m so present with them, I rarely talk on the phone, they don’t watch tv, I spend all this time making nourishing food”…. but you know what? In that moment they couldn’t care less about all that.

They are needing more of me.

Even when I feel there isn’t more of me to give.

And It’s my job as a parent to give them more.

To push my upper limit even when the story in my head would have me believe it’s not possible.

So how do you ensure there is always more to give?

Self care, Meditation and Mindfulness practices are a good place to start. Ultimately a commitment to your spiritual path. A commitment to knowing that these children have come to elevate and teach you.

Being a parent is like the biggest spiritual growth course you can undertake … if you are listening and willing to do the work.

So in that moment when your child appears to be fully annoying you or doing something super cheeky, firstly NOTICE where your attention has been. STOP what you are doing. CONNECT with them – physically, eye contact and dropping out of your ego if you can. What does this little soul need right now? REFLECT on the situation later in a quiet moment.

Sometimes in those moments when I seriously feel I’ve got nothing left to give, sorry times I buy into the story. Sometimes I snap and allow the story to be my reality and I raise my voice or say something in retaliation. And the rest of the time, I catch myself. I remember my ultimate commitment to my spiritual work. And respond with presence.

Photo by Melissa Jean Photography

Thriving in the School Holidays with Children

Wednesday 18 April 2018

 

 

I wrote a post on Instagram a while ago asking mothers what is the hardest thing about having children home for the holidays….. the challenges they shared included:

  • trying to getting anything else done
  • dealing with constant sibling arguments
  • finding some mama time for self care or that cuppa in silence
  • giving children quiet time without using the television
  • getting dinner on the table after a full on day with little ones
  • enlisting the support of partners in the same way of parenting and such things as removing television

Can you relate to any of these?

Today I want to offer some suggestions that I’ve found useful in my own home and when working with mamas in helping them create a harmonious home life.

First up …. (more…)

A GUIDE TO HELPING YOUR CHILD KEEP A TIDY ROOM

Sunday 4 March 2018

Ever found yourself nagging your kids to tidying up their room? 

My hand is raised….

With a new baby in the house, I’ve found myself doing a lot of nagging lately to tidy the room. Which also made me realise how much I must have been  tidying the girls room for them pre baby! 

I like our home to look lived in however ….

too much clutter and mess creates stagnant energy, which can affect our children’s health, behaviour and especially the bedtime rhythm. 

Lately we’ve been experiencing a new kind of tidying up where all the clothes get ‘dumped’ into the dirty clothes basket – even if they’ve only been worn for a split second!

I try to see my children as my teachers, so after noticing myself nagging more than normal, I decided to switch positions and ask myself how I could approach the situation in a new way?

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Easy Peasy Apple & Blackberry Crumble (gluten free)

Sunday 28 January 2018

I made this the other night and thought I must share as it was simply delicious and easy to put together while cooking dinner. It’s 8:40pm, all three children are in bed and I’ve just finished the last of this…SO DELICIOUS! I think it’s the blackberries that make it so good – so I suggest you don’t leave them out!

I’d love to know what you think in the comments below 🙂

From the pantry…

  • 5 organic apples – peeled, cored and cut into wedges
  • 1/2 cup filtered water
  • 1 cup of frozen blackberries
  • 1/2 vanilla bean – seeds scraped (I also throw the pod into the apples while cooking)

For the Crumble

  • 1/4 cup desiccated coconut
  • 1/4 cup almond meal
  • 1/4 cup buckwheat flour
  • 1/4 cup rapadura or brown sugar (or your choice of sweetener)
  • 30 grams of butter (room temperature)

Get the Meal Planner

Let’s begin…

  1. Begin by preparing the apple – peeling, coring and cutting wedges.
  2. Place apples, 1/2 cup of filtered water and vanilla bean seeds + pod in a saucepan on a low heat with lid ajar. Simmer apples until tender, add more water or turn heat down to stop from sticking.
  3. While the apples are simmering, prepare the crumble, by mixing together all the dry ingredients.
  4. Once dry ingredients combined, rub in butter with your fingertips until the mixture has the texture of wet sand.
  5. Once apples are tender remove vanilla bean pod and pouring off cooking liquid (pour this into a jar to drink if you like)
  6. Place apples into a baking dish, along with frozen blackberries. (If apples are very tart, you could add a sprinkling of rapadura or raw cane sugar.)
  7. Using your fingers sprinkle crumble over apples and
  8. Bake in a moderate oven 180’C/ 356’F  for approx. 15- 20 minutes until golden (Mine is a little burnt in the photo but still super delicious!)
  9. Enjoy along side some fresh cream, yogurt (dairy or coconut) or some homemade ice cream.

I’m sure your little ones will love it as much as mine do.

Natalie x

Mama Makes: Wool Fleece Christmas Angels

Sunday 19 November 2017

I’ve put together a creative making tutorial to inspire a little Christmas making….These sweet wool fleece Christmas Angels make a beautiful gift tucked into a card at Christmas time or for an end of year gift for teachers. They are a very simple sewing project that you will be able to make with children ages 5+.

For this project you will need:

Wool fleece – you can buy from Winterwood or Indigo Inspirations (for this video I used two pieces 20cm long)  (more…)

Preparing for Christmas with Children

Monday 6 November 2017

With another little one on the way, I am beginning to prepare for Christmas. So here are some ideas of our usual preparations for celebrating Christmas with little ones…

Crafting is always high on my list come any seasonal or festive celebration. Crafting with our hands seems to add that touch of magic that is so often missing these days.  The little Christmas Angels above are my creation inspired by a simple tutorial a friend shared many moons ago here and some gorgeous Dancing Angels Kits Zuzu & Me makes.

The festive season offers us so much magic we can add to our children’s lives. It simply takes us being conscious and prepared in simple ways to celebrate and bring the wonder & awe without the chaos and excess.

So what are ways we can do this?

You may like to begin with watching the Christmas Webinar for a little inspiration…you will also be sent 3 Festive Gift Ideas to make with Children

 

SIMPLE WAYS TO PREPARE FOR CHRISTMAS WITH CHILDREN:

In all the suggestions below, I invite you to consider the concept of delighting the senses of our children. Simple and inexpensive ways we can bring a little more magic and mindfulness. 

ADVENT CANDLE RING

Preparing a candle ring for Advent is a beautiful and simple tradition you can bring into your home. Begin by (more…)

Third Trimester and Setting Boundaries…

Friday 13 October 2017

 

Since moving into the third trimester, I have definitely noticed the shift in pace that my body is calling for. Unlike the speedy little person in the forefront of this picture 🙂

It’s incredible really the signs and symptoms our bodies offer us, helping us to make the necessary adjustments to move forward with more alignment and ease.

It is interesting to observe this third time around, especially in comparison with my other pregnancies. First time around, I was still making frequent international flights for work. Not really showing any signs of slowing down other than the practical preparations of organising maternity leave cover from work and setting up a home office (and a baby room).

Second time around, I was only working part time and spending the rest of the time enjoying slower days with my toddler. I continued social outings such as playgroup and weekly catch ups with friends, however slowing down from the commitments of work came much more naturally.

This time, I have been offered big learnings through out my pregnancy. I have been taught more than ever in my life to continually listen to my body, to notice how I am feeling and where I may be out of alignment with my Soul. I feel like this little child within me is offering me an added push to set clear and firm boundaries that ensure I am honouring myself and living from a place that is in alignment to my highest self. (more…)

Buckwheat & Banana Pancakes

Tuesday 1 August 2017

It has been a long time between blog posts, which has so often happened in the past 7 years I have been blogging. I so much love sharing and then there comes a time that life calls us back to be 100% present with the day to day, especially when we have little ones to take care of.

For those of you following my instagram account you will know that I spent the last term working as a Waldorf/ Steiner Handcraft teacher, a most wonderful opportunity and experience. You may also know that I am expecting our third baby and so the timing was rather interesting….news of a baby and job all in the one week. So after a very busy term 2, I am delighted to now be at home resting with my little one growing inside with a much less rushed mama!

I’ve been indulging in my two loves……creating and cooking. Here are a few pictures of a little standing doll I recently made.

Standing dolls are one of my favourite additions to a play space – they make the most perfect story prop for both mama and child along with some play cloths and animals. 

Read more about creating play spaces for children in my blog post HERE.

 

 

 

Buckwheat & Banana Pancakes

While I was working, this super simple & delicious pancake recipe became a firm favourite at our breakfast table. Although I am a two eggs and sourdough kinda girl, my big girl has started to challenge this family staple. I am very keen on ensuring she starts her day with something a little more nutrient dense than toast so feel a comfortable balance with these pancakes!

The recipe is gluten free which is always great in my books, light and fluffy and are still lovely slightly cooled or later in the day. I always serve with some butter, raw sugar, lemon wedges and maple syrup as we all seem to like different combinations. A yummy afternoon tea snack with some butter and a little strawberry jam.

makes approx. 10 pancakes the size you see in the picture 🙂

From the pantry:

1 pastured/ organic egg

1 whole banana mashed

1/2 cup buckwheat flour

1/2 cup milk

1 teaspoon baking powder

squeeze of lemon juice (or you could use a dash of apple cider vinegar)

Let’s begin:

Mix all ingredients together and cook in a heavy bottomed frypan or pancake pan on medium heat. I like to use a mix of coconut oil and butter to cook the pancakes. Once the mixture looks nicely bubbled, flip them over and cook for a another few minutes.

Enjoy! I’d love to know if you try it.

Apple & Berry Spelt Tea Cake

Saturday 1 July 2017

 


 This is my favourite tea cake. I usually make it with green apples however I had stewed all the apples the other day, so I improvised! As this cake uses melted butter, you can whip it up easily the old fashioned way….with a bowl and spoon. No fancy mixers required and far less washing up if you ask me! 
 
I managed to make this one while prepping breakfast, then into the oven for about 40 minutes and it was all ready to take to our morning play date.
 
from the pantry:

140 grams butter melted
1 cup of white spelt flour
1 teaspoon baking powder (without aluminimum)
3 eggs
1/2 cup of sugar or honey – (sugar….gasp! I know I know, you think it is evil… to understand the whole sugar subject read here)
1/3 cup stewed apples* (and or pears) 
1 cup of frozen blueberries (more if you like)
fresh lemon zest to taste – I used about half a lemon
1/2 teaspoon of ground cinnamon 
 
spinkles/ topping: a small handful of blueberries, a little more 
lemon zest, some shredded or desiccated coconut, a little sprinkle 
of cinnamon and some raw sugar 

Where-ever possible organic ingredients are best. 
 
let’s begin:

MELT the butter and mix with the sugar
ADD eggs 
ADD all other ingredients until combined
POUR cake batter into lined cake tin – I like to use if you care baking paper  
ADD sprinkles 
PLACE into hot oven (200 degrees Celcius) for between 30 – 40 minutes. 
 
Cooking time always depends on your oven. Cake is ready when it is lovely golden colour,  when you touch the top centre of the cake it bounces back and of course the good old skewer comes out clean test.

*Alternative – if you don’t have stewed apples on hand, simple use 4-5 fresh apples – chopped into slices and then in half again. If you add fresh apple, no need to add 1 cup of blueberries.